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Option B
From Facebook's COO and Wharton's top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life's inevitable setbacks.
After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. "I was in 'the void, '" she writes, "a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe." Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl's personal insights with Adam's eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart--and her journal--to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl's loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. "I want Dave," she cried. Her friend replied, "Option A is not available," and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
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学习之道
罗振宇 / 姬十三 / 战隼 / 成甲 / 古典 推荐
终身学习,为了更幸福更体面的生活!
在竞争激烈的高阶领域,决胜关键不仅在于知识多寡,还包括心理层面的锻炼:承受压力、把阻力化为优势,以及体能和情绪迅速复原的能力。而真正的学习赢家,能够在追求卓越的过程中持续总结心得,以健康的心态和纯熟的技巧,表现出更好的自己。
世界冠军 ,天才神童乔希·维茨金回首20年巅峰体验,为你逐一揭开在所有领域获取成功的共通秘笈:
◆ 学习从热情出发
天才不是与生俱来的,是建立在热爱、激情、寻找适合自己的学习方法的基础上的。追求卓越的关键在于,要坚持充满活力、长期的学习过程,不再满足于原地踏步、平平庸庸。
◆ 先学会输,才有机会赢
失败的经验比胜利更有价值。学习过程总有挫折,每个人都应该找到让自己疗伤充电、重新出发的方式。每次从创伤中痊愈或从一场败战中走出来时,都要让自己比之前更好。
◆ 让我们攀上高峰的不是奇招,而是熟能生巧的基本功
在学习过程中,深度胜于广度,质胜于量。所有的绝妙创意或“神来之笔”,无一不是以扎实的基本功为根基的。
◆ 专注当下,使生活更丰富精彩
大多数人都有在危急关头,体会到“极度专注”的经验。学会“专注”,不仅有助于学习和表现,也能提升感受力,发掘日常生活蕴藏的色彩和乐趣
◆ 学习是一场心智马拉松
障碍并不是障碍,而是有待克服的挑战,是要将弱点化为强项以激励成长的过程,在各种竞争性或专业领域达到表现的巅峰。
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罗振宇 / 姬十三 / 战隼 / 成甲 / 古典 推荐
“有一本书,给大家推荐一下。美国维茨金写的,叫《学习的艺术》,也有翻译成《学习之道》。他是什么人呢?是一个神童,13岁就拿到了国际象棋的国际大师的称号,后来这哥们儿实在是匪夷所思,他后来成为中国的太极推手的国际锦标赛冠军!他在书里,他说我这个人呐,我发现我其实既不是真懂棋,我也不是真懂太极,我真懂的就是学习,所以他写了这本书。”
——《罗辑思维》主讲人,得到App创始人罗振宇
“乔希·维茨金的这本《学习之道》,让我对于阅读以及了解世界这件事有了新的认识:他20岁不到就成为国际象棋大师,后来又成为全美太极拳手。他并不是因为擅长围棋又擅长太极而成功,而是因为他系统地掌握了万事万物的学习之道。”
——果壳网、分答创始人姬十三
“个人爱好就是研究有效学习,读过数百本这方面的书籍,推荐一些好书……这本书是乔希·维茨金自己写的,76年出生,在13岁就获得象棋大师头衔,在20岁的写了一个‘象棋大师’的程序,同时还学了太极,参加台湾的世界太极推手大赛,并获得冠军。他最擅长的领域是学习,就是分享他对学习的观点。”
——知名自媒体warfalcon、100天行动发起人战隼
“高效的学习方法里,有一种方法叫:对标。就是把某个领域中最优秀的人或组织当作标杆榜样来学习。《学习之道》的作者乔希·维茨金能够先后获得国际象棋和太极推手双料冠军,奥秘何在?用维茨金自己的话来说:他掌握了学习的艺术。《学习之道》是一本让我受益良多的学习方法书,推荐你阅读!”
——《好好学习:个人知识管理精进指南》作者、得到APP“每天听本书”说书人、知识管理公众号:“成甲” 主理人 成甲
新精英生涯创始人,畅销书《你的生命有什么可能》《拆掉思维里的墙》作者古典 推荐
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给孩子最好的成长力
毕加索曾提醒我们:“每个孩子都是个艺术家,问题在于如何确保他长大后依然是。”
《给孩子最好的成长力》源于作者在耶鲁大学儿童研究中心从事早期教育相关工作的经验。她带领我们深入当前的早期教育文化,充分暴露了天下父母的担心:如果没有合适的策略和工具,我们的小爱因斯坦可能会远远落后。
本书建议的核心是,我们与孩子的关系才是重要的学习工具,因为,在孩子的大脑中,爱和学习是两个相辅相成的概念。更幸运的是,孩子的大脑里本就拥有成长需要的所有要素。如果我们肯有爱但不加评判地观察他们,他们会告诉我们前进的方向。
本书提醒我们,孩子所在之处就是课堂,幼小的孩子天生可以在几乎任何地点和任何事情中学习。当我们学会恢复孩子早期学习的“游戏生境”,找到孩子的更佳学习区域,我们就会看到他们的活力与力量。
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万一我们一辈子单身
网易云音乐独家签约主播,简书、片刻 app热文作者
少女绿妖“阿绿酒馆”温暖开业,与你相约“绿妖时间”
思想聚焦、十点读书、视觉志、她说、晚安少年、灵魂有香气的女子 纷纷转载
新锐作家纯之、青年作者七毛、民谣唱作人张羿凡、民谣音乐人马雨阳、“半岛玫瑰”主播台风和玫瑰 感动推荐
谨以此书献给那些年你一个人的日子,那被坚硬外壳包裹下柔软的心
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少女绿妖「阿绿酒馆」温暖开业,待你看尽这个世界的苍凉和温暖。
你是个不喜欢群居的动物,身上有着鲜明的棱角,却有一颗柔软的心。
你已经很久没恋爱了,有时怀疑自己是否还有恋爱的能力。
有时候你希望自己活得薄情一些,这样就不怕只留自己一个人走。
三个月前你和他计划着短途旅行,今天却又一个人来到这里……
所有孤单的,失意的,无法入眠的人,欢迎你来到这个深夜酒馆。这里有好酒,也有故事。
有人莽撞地带着烈酒和心声,与我们一醉方休;有人抽着令我们窒息的雪茄,很无礼地瞪着我们;甚至有不怀好意的小偷和骗子,深藏于众人之中,稍不留意,便会给我们制造伤口,令我们痛不欲生。可是有什么关系呢?人们啊,终有一散,我们眼前种种都是过去,我们无时无刻不在与过去告别。我们拥有的都是侥幸,我们失去的都是人生。
还是要去相爱。
希望我们都能有个温暖而坚实的拥抱,在这人世间。
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你当温柔,且有力量
本书根据戴尔·卡耐基中有关女人的励志思想,依据温柔却有力量的主题,由八个方面着手,给女性读者启示如何活得精彩的密码:一是,爱是修行,女人应该懂得爱的方式;二是,优雅是女人提升魅力的必由之路;三是,做温柔和力量合二为一的女人;四是,兰心慧质,要懂得淡定从容;五是,女人需要提升自己的品位;六是,做聪明女人,让人从内心喜欢你;七是,善待自己人生才会完美;八是,勇敢做自己,就能收获幸福和成功。希望本书能够让现代女性,在都市繁忙中静下心来,获得力量,在日积月累的压力下从灵魂上拯救自己。
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Chemistry
Three years into her graduate studies at a demanding Boston university, the unnamed narrator of this nimbly wry, concise debut finds her one-time love for chemistry is more hypothesis than reality. She's tormented by her failed research--and reminded of her delays by her peers, her advisor, and most of all by her Chinese parents, who have always expected nothing short of excellence from her throughout her life. But there's another, nonscientific question looming: the marriage proposal from her devoted boyfriend, a fellow scientist, whose path through academia has been relatively free of obstacles, and with whom she can't make a life before finding success on her own. Eventually, the pressure mounts so high that she must leave everything she thought she knew about her future, and herself, behind. And for the first time, she's confronted with a question she won't find the answer to in a textbook: What do I really want? Over the next two years, this winningly flawed, disarmingly insightful heroine learns the formulas and equations for a different kind of chemistry--one in which the reactions can't be quantified, measured, and analyzed; one that can be studied only in the mysterious language of the heart. Taking us deep inside her scattered, searching mind, here is a brilliant new literary voice that astutely juxtaposes the elegance of science, the anxieties of finding a place in the world, and the sacrifices made for love and family.